Argggg! I am soo frustrated! So let me tell you the story....So the week before Christmas I had a falling out with one of my "friends" To which we are no longer friends!! She has hurt me extremely bad not once but twice! She is the type of person who is VERY hot headed and when she is pissed she says things very hurtful without even thinking! The other thing that really bothers me is that she takes everything her kids say seriously and doesn't take into account that kids say the darndest kids and won't just let kids be kids! K....To make a long story short...Both of our oldest daughter are best friends or were....And my youngest daughter absolutely ADORED her son! They were like a little couple I had NEVER seen at their age. Love as Toddlers!!! It was the sweetest thing ever. Anyway...So for some reason her oldest daughter craves her mothers attention and thrives on making her mother upset to get her attention. So she talks to her mother about disagreements that she and my daughter have at the playground at school or whatever and her mom blows it outta of proportion! I don't know why she has to make a big deal if her daughter is upset because my daughter said she didn't want to play with her daughter or whatever! That is how kids are...They don't know any better. So her mom says well then you don't need to play with her and blows the shit outta proportion to me so I make my daughter apologize to the girl to find out the whole story was false and blown outta proportion that she had wanted to play with my daughter but HER friends from her class didn't want her to and wanted her to play with them instead! Of course her mom blew the shit outta proportion and made her daughter believe that was the way things happened because she got a reaction outta her mom and got the attention she wanted!  So here I am punishing my daughter for something she never said or did. So the mom calls me again to tell me that Arianna is claiming Laryssa was mean to her again! I was pissed...I told her I didn't believe it!! She thought I meant I wasn't believing Arianna which I really didn't but I just can't believe how this shit keeps happening and like I said her daughter thrives on the attention from her mom knowing what will light her spark! So I was mad at the mom cause she hung up on the phone with me abruptly to say "Than FINE!!! You don't need to come over ANY MORE!!!" I was pissed and hurt all at the same time cause she is soo fucking hot headed that she doesn't even WANT to hear others side of the story and hear what I mean when I said I didn't believe it! Anyway...So we talked again after that and I gave her the benefit of the doubt and was hoping for an apology for the way she treated me but NEVER got one!! I do have to note that I have time and time again apologized to her for my faults! The bitch never fucking acknowledges her own faults!!! So then we were talking and shit again and then the conversation came up about her admitting she is hot headed and she has the nerve to tell the person..." Shelley would know I had it out with her!" She basically laughed it out and made it like a big joke like it was nothing. Not knowing that she had hurt me with what she had said! She still never even then apologized! Anyhow so then her and her husband hosted this office Christmas party cause our husbands work together and to make another long story short....They hosted one last year to which her husband always dresses up as Santa for the kids and my daughter came home that night saying she and her friend Arianna...(the Santa's daughter) had figured out it was him. So all this time we were all under the assumption that they both knew about him being Santa. So I opted to make sure and tell my daughter that even tho she knew about the Santa this year to NOT say anything to the other younger kids who didn't know! Course that was when we were at the party and talking with the mom she said that she didn't think her daughter Arianna knew that her dad was the Santa to which then I told Laryssa NOT to say anything to Arianna as she said she wouldn't not knowing they had already discussed it earlier that night! Than after the whole night was over and everyone left she tells her mom what Laryssa said about her dad being the Santa. Her mother was Livid....So guess what she does...instead of coming to me to talk about the whole issue or get the facts or whatever...She has the Fucking nerve to go online to a fucking public site and write a blog basically aimed at me saying that if peoples kids don't believe than they need to keep their fucking beliefs to themselves and saying how my daughter had ruined her daughters belief that there was a Santa and how she was trying for so long to keep them believing and we had crushed that for her!!! I WAS so hurt!!! I cried for days!!! Who would go on a fucking public site to bitch someone out unless they knew I was gonna read it!!! OMFG!!! I never responded to the blog!!! I am soo much better than that...So then I tell my husband the story crying to him and he decides to defend me knowing the truth of the story too. So he writes her husband an email asking for him to have his wife apologize to me for writing something like that so Grimy on a fucking public site to which her husband responds that maybe they keep their relationship to work related only!!! What a fucking Dick!! Just like his fucking wife!!! Anyway...So I decided to just rid them from my life because I also had some other issues with her with which I didn't agree with. For one, she ALWAYS is yelling at her kids for shit and even curses in front of them. C'mon ...I curse too...But I at least have the decency to not swear in front of my kids. They don't need to hear those words or yet let alone be using them at that age! To me it is very degrading and I didn't like the fact that my kids were around when she was acting like that with her kids. So I guess Maybe it is better I am closing my friendship with her cause she was always demeaning and always had a negative attitude and complained about everything. She just never really seemed like a happy person and it was starting to bring me down hanging out with her! It does however break my heart that shit had to come to this being our kids were so close! I explained it to my girls that sometimes friends don't get along and that they come and go and that they weren't going to be playing with her kids anymore cause I don't want to be around their mommy cause we just don't get along and their mommy had hurt me a lot and I said you want to see mommy happy right and they said yeah and I said it would be better if I Not be friends with their mom and the only way to do that was to rid myself of any contact with her. My oldest daughter had tears streaming down her face at first but she still gets to see her best friend at school and I told her she could make new ones and she has. She has a new best friend Anna at school that she keeps asking to have come over and play so I think I am gonna make the call to make that happen. The only thing is my youngest is the one I feel sorry for....She now has no one but her sister! Her sister has now become her best friend which I guess is a good thing but I feel sorry for her cause when Laryssa is at school she is bored and Lonely and always asks when Laryssa is gonna be home to play with. It breaks my fucking heart!!! So then that one "friend" and I had a mutual friend also who's husband worked with our husbands and then she find out that she and my ex friend have in common that both of their sons are Autistic. So they have got that in common. So they have shared stories, likenesses and experiences together. To which they have made me feel as though because my girls are "normal" so to speak that I just don't understand what either of them are going thru with their sons and their Autism! Just because my daughters don't have any issues I am an outcast and just don't understand! They almost have been trying to make me feel bad cause my girls are soo good and don't have any issues! It is soo frustrating. So now I also feel that my ex friend has went and corrupted her and told her shit about me! I know she saw the blog too but I have this feeling that my friend has decided to take her side cause she blows shit outta proportion and exaggerates stories and probably made her to see a bad side of me to which she too never wants to talk to me anymore. I have tried talking to her and our conversations are short not like they used to be and I tried to invite her to hang out and she avoids me and makes excuses to not hang out with me! It hurts so bad! I don't know what to do! I feel like I have no true friends they are all fucking back stabbers and it is soo hurtful and frustrating! What do I do? How do I go on? My poor girls I had to tear them from all their only best friends!! I feel like such a bad mom! Do you think what I did was right in cutting the friendship off and keeping my kids from playing with their best friends. I am a lot happier now that I have cut her from my life and have made new friends in the mean time...However...the one friend who I counted on to not turn her back on me knowing that  me and my ex friend  were not talking has seemed to distanced herself from me and won't tell me why or confront be about anything! I am not one for confrontation so I just kinda let shit boil over and hope it gets better and sometimes it does....and sometimes... it just never will as hard as I have tried!!!